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How to fight negative feelings

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Negative feelings are one the worst things we can experience as a human being. Anger, sadness, jealousy and hatred are termed negative emotions because they make you lose confidence and feel miserable about yourself and others. There are some simple strategies to deal with negative emotions. And you might be reading this because you have some sort of negative feelings hammering your mind right now.


Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and take away your confidence. Negative emotions can dampen your enthusiasm for life, depending on how long you let them affect yourself and the way you choose to express them.

Sometimes in life, there is not a day that goes by in your life where you do not encounter negative feelings. Yo may have tried hundreds of different ways to cope with them, from trying your best not to think of a negative thought when it comes around the corner to re-framing negative thoughts into something else.

Before you submerge yourself into another trial and error method to get rid of negative feelings, I want lend you a helping hand. I can truly guarantee that if you can master this method, then youll be able to handle your negative emotions a lot better in the long run. 

The key to getting rid of negative feelings is in self control, but many people get angry, depressed, jealous, irritated, anxious, confused, and worried over things that may seem impossible to overcome. 

It would be pretty nice if we could stay detached to our emotions and not let them affect us and our thinking, but emotions are all part of life; they are here to stay and effect your body mind and soul. 

And since a lot of thoughts come in your mind every single day, its natural that a few of those thoughts can affect how you feel. The biggest one being fear.
Fear that we cannot do it...
Fear that it will not work...
Fear that this is impossible...
Fear that this is not for me...
Fear that we are always out of luck...
Fear that we will never win...


When this happens, your imaginations run wild with more negative thoughts, and this can totally cause your body to go beyond just negative feelings. If you often feel so out of sync with yourself that you start to analyze every different rational way just to get a hold of your emotions? Then what happens your brain tries to run from your feelings losing contact with your body in that way your body can actually become paralyzed? At this point the mere process of just taking action is not even an option anymore.
If youre a person who constantly finds themselves analyzing your feelings, what you need to do is stop. This will always cause you to have negative emotions. They wont go away just because you started to rame your thoughts into something differently. What happens when another similar situation comes up? What happens if its worse? Will you have to come up with another hundred ways until you rame your negative thoughts and feelings into something else?

For example:
"your afraid that people will think bad of you if you do something wrong."

This is negative thinking will cause tension in your body, and youre body will then tell your subconscious to stop working. Then your mind go into a mode where all you are doing is battling with yourself endlessly through heated analyses. 

"Why would people think lowly of me?"
"Who are these people to judge me?"
"Should I keep going?"
"Just go!"
"What do I need to do?"
All this talk of analyzing the situation is useless...


Emotions are psychological (what we think) and biological (what we feel). Our brain responds to our thoughts by releasing hormones and chemicals which send us into a state of arousal. All emotions come about in this way, whether positive or negative.

It is a complex process and often we dont have the skills to deal with negative feelings. That’s why we find it hard to cope when we experience them.

If you want to get rid of negative emotions, do not battle your body with your other thoughts! What you need to do is start trying to be in complete harmony with your body. Try to align your thoughts with your body not to disjoint them. In other words: just Let it be.

When a negative situation comes up, such as a negative thought or a negative emotion; let it be. Nothing outside of your physical body is actually happening; everything is going on inside of you. When you feel worry, anxiety, or fear, let it be. Accept that its there; dont try to fight it.

When any negative situation comes, be prepared for it, be aware of it, but most importantly, be conscious of it.

Sometimes when this happens, youll absolutely need to stop what youre doing and go somewhere where its completely silent and just sit there being undisturbed. This may take from hours; or minutes. It depends on how strong the negative emotion is but whatever you do, dont try to fight your negative feelings. Dont question it, dont analyze it, dont talk about it, and dont obsess or think about it.

Just let it be.

Be aware of your feelings and allow them run through your body. As hard as it may be at first, if you can do this, then you will be able to channel that negative energy into something positive later on.

Understand that whatever thought caused the uncomfort you are having, you first accept that it is what it is.

The second thing is being conscious of how that makes you feel? Specifically where is the feeling located? Do you feel it in your chest, your arms; your whole body? Maybe you cant even identify where it is because the feeling moves from place to place in your body.

Dont go into an emotional tantrum like some people do. This just feeds into the negative feelings even more. Just stay still. Recognize these feelings and actually feel them.

This may be contrary to what people belief, but the truth is your not escaping your feelings. Youre facing them straight on.

As youre feeling them, say to yourself, "I understand that this is what I am thinking about right now, and I understand that this is what Im feeling right now. I accept this."
To really understand how to accept something, sometimes you wont even need words at all; you wont even need to say what is written above. Words may cause even more trouble if you start talking within your mind again. It should be silent.

You just are just being at the moment.

You are absorbing whatever happens to be the case.

Whatever you are thinking and feeling, accept it.
If you dont know something, then you dont know. Accept the feeling of not knowing something. If you truly accept something for what it is, you should feel an instant calmness to you.

Anger, jealous, curiosity, and fear should slowly dissipate from your body and you should be able to think more clearly and logically on what to do next once these feelings are gone. Youre not fighting your negative feelings; youre absorbing them and being in sync with them.

The more you are able to do this, the easier it becomes. Its definitely a skill that is worth investing your time, because if you can learn to accept the small negative feelings that you are having, then you will be able to learn how to deal with bigger negative feelings the next time it comes. Youll be so completely detached from it that youll simply brush it off and move on. Thats what youre working up to.

It definitely beats taking pills from doctors that are just a temporarily relief. If you cant accept the first negative feeling, then you wont be able to get through the others. Youll constantly have to rely on short term alternative routes to escape the uncomfort.

You may have heard the saying ,"No pain, No gain"

Each time you have a negative emotion, it may be painful but accept it. Youre battling it; youre absorbing it. Youre gaining ground each time you do this and by the time you face more of them. Youll be indifferent.

The real question isnt how to get rid of negative feelings? People who try to "get rid of it" are taking the wrong first step and will have a hard time doing so because youre in constant battle with something thats naturally a part of you.

Emotions are not something where you can just "remove" or "erase" as youre not getting rid of anything. Youre absorbing something and putting it for better use later on.

And the key to doing this first understand it and accept it. Allow it to be there. Or put it how youd liked to put it: just let it be.

By doing this, youll be able to conquer your negative feelings, move forward, and be prepared when the next one comes up.



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